Ask a random girl in our society what her future plans are and it's almost impossible for her to skip the part when she gets married and starts raising her own kids, I kept wondering why it was that way until i got a bit older and my female friends grew older with me and started becoming 'ripe' for marriage. From every of their actions, statements and moves you'll know that they're under direct and indirect pressure to get married. Some girls would change the display pictures on the texting apps of their mobile phones (e.g BBM) week after week to pictures of their 'friends' getting married or having a pre-wedding photo shoot or an engagement party; and you don't need a prophet to tell you that they can't wait for the day it gets to their turn.
Why are ladies always in a hurry to leave the single life to tie themselves to a man 'forever'? Why are they always in a rush to have babies and alter their 'sexy' body (even though not all have a sexy body)? Why are they such in a hurry to have steady and uninterrupted sexual supplies? These are the questions I keep asking myself when I see a young girl who is under intense pressure (direct and indirect) to get married.
In an attempt to answer these questions I came up with answers in my head - Maybe they just want to be free from the bondage of living under their parents' roof and go start a home where they can exercise power and liberty? Maybe they just want to be having constant sex without having any form of guilty conscience or withouth appearing 'cheap'? Maybe they want to show off to their fellow girls that they're also 'marriageable'; and can attract a man who has sworn to spend the rest of their life with them. Or is it that they just want to be able to take pre-wedding photoshoots too, snap with wedding gown and put on snapchat and Instagram so that they can have lots of views and likes, and make other girls jealous? These amongst plenty other answers are what I came up with, I know I could be wrong.
A girl once turned me down because she said I was not ready to get married to her that year, and she needs someone serious who is ready to marry her before that year ends. The irony of this whole issue is that this same girl is not married till today, and there's every possibility that I may even get married before her. Some have sleepless nights because they're not married and their mates are, some go through days and weeks of fasting and prayer looking for husbands because they're 'getting old'. The recent trend now is announcing qualities on social media and ask that people help them look for husband. They don't need a young good looking man with 'prospects' as women did in the days of our fathers, they need men who are 'ready' for marriage even though he looks like a gorilla and an iguana mated to give birth to him.
Should the society be blamed for this? Because it contributes largely to this madness and fuss about getting married amongst young women. Our parents, relatives, friends, traditional and religious institutions and the government; I think all have a major role to play in this. Why is marriage a woman's 'greatest' achievement in life, why is a single woman no matter how successful she might be regarded as a 'failure' because she didn't get married but a man's success is never tied to his marital status; in fact single and successful men are highly exalted.
I'm sure you can't wait to find out why. Stay tuned for the second part of this article which would be available in a very short time from now; meanwhile I would like to read your comments.
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